A Gift List Works Magic

Does your better half always struggle with what to get you at Christmas and birthdays, does it cause strife and bad feelings and completely ruin the day because like a lot of guys he’s completely useless at picking gifts, he has no idea that a new set of pans is not a great birthday or Christmas gift, guys like and enjoy tools as gifts so often think that we do too. And let’s be honest here ladies if it was any “ordinary “day of the week and  he arrived home with a brand new mixer  or bread maker and said “hey honey look what I got for you” , you would, confess it now, be quite pleased !
Guys poor creatures don’t appreciate the subtle difference that women do, that on those special personal occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, even Christmas call for gifts of a more personal nature, that indicate to the lady in question that she is cherished loved and appreciated, gifts that show a little effort has gone into their selection, a gift with feeling and meaning.  A new kitchen gadget doesn’t speak that to a woman, it says in a very loud voice,”oh well is that all he thinks of me, that I’m just around to cook and clean and do chores” and she is obviously unhappy.
While impromptu spur of the moment gifts of any kind even if they are kitchen gadgets, strangely enough, are on the whole received very well, but not because of what they are, but what they signify, and what they signify is huge. Women most of the time feel they are undervalued and little appreciated, basically out of sight out of mind …….of course this isn’t true (well in most cases) When a guy brings home a gift on a none gifting occasion it is very meaningful to his lady, it demonstrates that he does think about her and of her when they are not together, and the impromptu gift gives her proof of this,so consequently she is very happy ,on cloud nine in fact,(Gee no wonder guys are confused).

Fed up of being made to feel miserable on what should of been special days , a few years ago I decided to make a gift list all the types of gifts I would be happy to receive and on what occasion ,I gave this gift list to him in the middle of the year not near any special gifting occasion, I just said plainly” look here dear I’m tired of getting crap gifts from you, that just make me unhappy, and I know you don’t do it on purpose ,so I thought I’d make up a gift list and help you out” .

My gift list was something like

Special Occasions Gift List

Jewelry
Teapot (I collect Teapots)
Birdhouse (and Birdhouses)
Perfume
Unusual Perennial Plant zone 6 (I am a gardener)
Unique item of garden decor (one year he made me a bridge for across the stream that feeds my garden pond I love it)
Handmade gifts (handmade by him)
A weekend away
Theater Tickets (to a musical)

Just Because Gifts

Towels and sheets (found on sale)
Craft Stuff
Anything handcrafted (by anyone just  love handmade gifts)
Garden Ornament
Latest book by favorite author
Flowers
Candy
Kitchen gadgets
Home decor accents in theme ranges I collect (I have a nautically inspired bathroom) and a black and white kitchen.

One further little pointer go into detail on the gift list the more the better don’t just put as I did above jewelry and perfume that’s too much room for error, if your perfume is channel #5 write that on the list, if you collect Pandora charms write Pandora charms if that’s what you want not just jewelry, don’t be ambiguous that leaves to much room for mistakes and disappointment and a ruined day for both of you.
Two or three months after I gave him the gift list it was my birthday I received two wonderful and beautiful antique teapots to add to my collection ,and we went away for the weekend all arranged a head of time by him ,it was wonderful.

But guess what a little while afterward he turned to me and told me the best present I had ever given him was my gift list, it had made gift shopping “almost” a pleasure as he knew that he was buying something I liked and wanted, the gift list had removed all fear of getting the gift wrong. I found out that soon after he had also asked both our teen daughters to write him a gift list for them.
I thought about this myself for a little while then asked him to write a gift list for himself for me . I am always aware that he likes tools and gadgets but one saw blade or drill bit is pretty much the same as the next to me but not to a guy, so getting him to write a gift list for you will ease your gift shopping blues too, it works well both ways and creates happy days.

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